Xiao esp32c3 won't upload programs unless I'm in bootloader mode

Seriously ! Two tiny buttons in sequence for every load ?? And then another tiny button before the monitor will come active ?? After a couple of days of this I’m beat ! Is there an update that does away with this lunacy ? I’ve used ESP32’s before and this is NOT an ESP32 thing. No way I’m going to do any level of development with this constant hurdle. Is there an update ???