Hi there,
So , @cgwaltney has you in the right track when this pops up. also I would add go look at this thread I think you will find the answer there as well. Problems with esp32s3 sense with spi st7789 display - #18 by bamoore01
You’re close and it does work. You will get there. 
The TFT_eSPI is worth the effort, you get WAY more with it than any others. Period!
HTH
GL 
PJ 